Every new relationship comes with past experiences that create expectations and affect trust. Whether those past experiences were positive or negative, the prosperity of a new relationship relies on the ability to address issues of trust and faith, as well as unrealistic expectations. Partners in new relationships are especially prone to finding themselves questioning their significant other’s actions and motives.
We know that to build a healthy and lasting relationship, unconditional love must be established early on, but that there are a few things that hinder unconditional love. A lack of trust or faith in a partner, the absence of truth, either about ourselves or our partner, and unattainable expectations that diminish our partner’s worth have no place in unconditional love.
To build the road to unconditional love, and to heal and renew ourselves from past experiences, we must have a desire to change, exercise faith, and tell the truth about ourselves when beginning a new relationship.
Many people come into new relationships with past emotional trauma. It’s easy to close ourselves off to communication and care, but we must learn to be vulnerable to be unconditionally loved and to be able to love unconditionally. This kind of love thrives in environments without secrets or hidden feelings. We must learn to find, and separate ourselves from, negative influences in our life that lead us to close ourselves off.
Faith is not a feeling. It’s not wishing or hoping. It’s a choice we make. If we choose to question our partner’s actions or decide to snoop on them, we are not practising good faith. With good faith, we choose to believe something is true and then behave as though it were. Anything short of that is not faith and will not lead to growth or happy relationships.
Telling the truth about yourself is the most concrete, active step you can take in the process of finding unconditional love. It’s where the rubber meets the road. To participate in a healthy and happy relationship, we must know what we want for ourselves and what is important to us at our core. Unconditional love can’t be established if our core values and life goals don’t align with our partner’s.
New relationships are both exciting and scary. It can be difficult to let go of damaging behaviours learned over years of bad relationships. However, by practising the principles of unconditional love, new relationships can learn how to love without judgement and expectations.